‘Beauty’ or the ‘Beast’

Nine months later an itsy-bitsy opens and sets its eyes on mommy dear, oblivious of what the future holds for him, enjoying the warmth from its bearer.
The ‘Book of Life’ turns open on this tiny human with lots of chapters, filled with several emotional, physical and financial roller coasters.
One chapter at a time, the child crosses several stages of life.

However, while going through a chapter at a time, how does each chapter affect its being, is the question.

Factors having its effect on a child are innumerable right from its dawn. To name a few: Parent-child interaction, social environment, schooling and its educators, family and financial status, cultural and religious backgrounds, etc.

Today, we will talk about how a child (age 0 months – 5 years) is affected by his surroundings while growing up.

“It is easier to build strong children than to repair broken men.” – Frederick Douglas, abolitionist and statesman.

Our newbies are perpetually observing and learning, no matter what surroundings or environment you put them in.
Our tones become their dialogues.
Our words become their inner voice.
Our actions become their conduct.

Therefore, we have to be very vigilant of what we are nurturing, a ‘beauty’ or a ‘beast’.

In this post, We will see a few settings in which a child is brought up and how it affects his personality.

Broken Homes

Scenario 1:
When parents haven’t realized the intoxication of their relationship and its effect on the child. Quarreling, arguing and at times, leveling it up by bashing each other. It is most likely for the child to be neglected and deprived of its well deserving affection and care.
Children in any abnormal setting develop tendencies which reflect through their personalities all through their life.

They become aggressive and violent, developing a habit of communicating with peers and mates in the same manner as they witness at home. Picking on fights and verbal abuse is not considered a taboo by these little minds.
However, they become sensitive with a constant sense of fear and loss.
Using punches, kicks or slang seems to be very easy as it helps them from being overpowered. Seeking attention becomes their agenda as they miss it the most, for which they use unacceptable means unknowingly. For instance, an aggressive child of 4 years old, may always keep a frown, making sure he puts his teacher off whenever she tries to communicate or teach him. Climbing shelves, breaking toys or hurting his classmate are few ways of grabbing attention.

Scenario 2:
Finally, parents realize the intoxication of their marriage and decide to part ways. Good Gracious!! the child is saved from the trauma of witnessing a human version of ‘cats and dogs fighting’.
Even so, the child sees the courtroom in the whole process of separation and goes through the anxiety of missing one of each parent at some point during the day. A legal ‘tug of war’ over keeping him, itself is nerve-racking.
In this settlement, the kid gets insecure, facing a constant fear of loss, developing attention-seeking behavior and becoming aggressive are a few ‘payoffs’ of this arrangement.
However, this little fellow develops high emotional sensitivity towards the situation.

Sulking alone at nights, becoming clingy, cranky behaviour, loss of appetite and loss of interest in activities are a few after-effects of the separation.
Childhood turns to into maturity way before the time for these little grown-ups. Complex situation and understanding the seriousness of it becomes a piece of cake for such kids, while some ‘of-age’ still struggle reacting maturely to certain situations.

Scars of this tender age are like ‘tumour’. It has to be dealt with appropriately and at the right time or else it has its effect on different stages of his life.

Such little individuals, either learn from ‘the lesson’ and do not let the history repeat or, they learn ‘the lesson’ and repeat the history the way it was.

Spouse is the only relation we choose, while all other relationships are by default. Hence, choose wisely, not for your sake but for the sake of your children to come and their future.

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Coming up next week: few more settings in which a child is bought up and how it effects him.

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